Pain WITH Love

One thing that women of all shapes and sizes deals with is pain. Its something we all have in common. All women hurt for some reason... and I bet you 90% of the time it doesn't show on the outside. Women are resilient, so we hold it in, put on a stiff upper lip, and move forward like nothing is wrong. But there is. May it be depression of any sort, self-esteem issues, an illness, an open wound left by someone else, they all hurt. We all hurt. So pain is the first thing we need to clean up in our Bikini Carwash.

I've seen a meme around where there is usually a pin-up girl of some assortment with the lines 'Pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick, and pull yourself together.' I hate this. I really really do. It's passing on the message that when we're hurting we should make everything look like nothing it wrong. This is terrible, it feels terrible, and just a shit-head way to deal with your pain. We need to talk it out, research it, treat it, and THEN put on some lipstick and adjust our panties.

NO ONE knows whats best for you except YOU. YOU are the only person who has ANY say over how you should deal with your pain. As a sufferer of IBD; I can tell you that my pain makes me angry. I lash out at unsuspecting people, push them out, and wallow in my own inner filth until my delicious inner bikini turned into a pair of overalls, rubber poots, and a goose-down parka zipped up to my throat. Since being diagnosed, and being given control over my diet and medication, I'm back in a good place where my bikini is looking its best! Sometimes I put a robe on when I'm flaring up... but my bikini always shines through. I still get angry, because pain doesn't just go away. Its always there looming in the shadows like a seagull on a power-line just waiting to shit in your convertible. But learning and research is the pop-top to protect us from the shit-storm. If you're hurting for any reason: DO THE RESEARCH. BE PROACTIVE. LEARN ABOUT IT. The more you know the easier it is to confront and manage. Believe me... nothing triggers fear more than the unknown. This is true for ANY pain, be it illness or psychological imbalance.

So before you get a drink and throw on a pair of heels, put on your bunny slippers and pajamas. Make yourself as comfortable as you can. Take your mind off of what others might be thinking about you and think about what you think about you and what needs to be done to make you feel better. Only when you feel better will that lipstick and heels feel good. No one likes to feel like shit in a pair of peep-toe pumps. Or in ANYTHING for that matter.